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How to Advocate for Your Child's Sensory Differences
We received a question about how to best explain to others that your child has sensory needs and differences to those who just don’t understand it. Or to those who think your child is misbehaved.
So, we’re diving into this topic - how to explain and advocate for your child’s sensory differences! We talk about some verbiage to use, we provide you with a free download (link below!), and just an overall quick pep talk to remind you that YOU are your child’s BEST advocate!
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How to Advocate for Your Child's Sensory Differences
When your child has sensory processing challenges, it's common for others to misinterpret their behaviors. You might hear comments like, "That child needs more discipline," or "Wow, they're really out of control!"
These assumptions can be frustrating and hurtful. However, with the right tools and strategies, you can confidently advocate for your child and help others understand that sensory needs aren't bad behavior.
Understanding Sensory Processing Challenges
Children with sensory processing challenges have difficulty interpreting sensory input. This could mean they:
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Overreact to things like loud noises or bright lights (sensory sensitivity).
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Seek extra stimulation, such as running, jumping, or chewing on objects (sensory seeking).
These differences in how their nervous system processes sensory information may cause behaviors that others don't understand. To the outside world, these kids might seem impulsive, careless, or "misbehaved."
But in reality, they're just trying to regulate their sensory needs. As a parent or caregiver, it’s your job to help others understand and show compassion.
1. Craft a Sensory "Elevator Pitch"
When someone questions your child's behavior, it helps to have a short, memorized explanation—an "elevator pitch"—ready. This makes it easier to educate others quickly without feeling caught off guard.
Here’s an example of what you might say:
"My child has sensory processing challenges, which makes it difficult for them to organize and respond to sensory input throughout the day. This may cause them to react intensely, appear impulsive, or seem clumsy—behaviors that stem from their sensory needs rather than misbehavior, so feel free to ask me any questions!"
2. Set Clear Boundaries To Protect Your Child
It is important to establish boundaries with people who don’t understand your child’s sensory needs. If someone offers advice that’s unhelpful or critical, stand firm and advocate for your child’s dignity.
For example, if someone says, “More discipline will help your child,” you can respond with: "We discipline our child in the way that works best for them and are not looking for additional advice. Thank you." Then, calmly change the subject. You don’t need to justify your parenting decisions.
Similarly, if someone comments, "Your child is really out of control," you can reply:
"My child is meeting their sensory needs right now." By setting these boundaries, you teach others to respect both your child and your parenting choices.
3. Educate Daycare Providers And Teachers
Daycares and schools can be overwhelming environments for children with sensory challenges. Educators may not always be familiar with sensory processing needs, so it’s crucial to advocate for your child by sharing specific instructions.
Here’s how you can support teachers and caregivers:
1. Provide a Written Plan
Write a list of your child’s sensory needs and strategies that help. For example:
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If my child chews on their pencil, they need oral sensory input. Please offer them their "chewie."
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If they start rocking back and forth, they may need a sensory break.
2. Offer Sensory Tools
Supply the teacher with tools your child uses, like fidgets, noise-canceling headphones, or sensory-friendly seating.
3. Highlight Strengths
Help caregivers see your child’s positive qualities. Share that your child loves telling jokes, has a great imagination, or enjoys helping others. This builds rapport and fosters a supportive environment.
4. Teach Your Child To Advocate For Themselves
As your child grows, they can start learning how to express their own sensory needs. This builds confidence and helps them succeed in social and academic environments.
For example, your child could learn to say: "I'm feeling overwhelmed. Can I use my fidget?" Teaching self-advocacy skills starts with modeling.
When you advocate for your child in front of others, you show them how to communicate assertively and respectfully about their needs. Over time, they’ll develop the confidence to advocate for themselves.
5. Seek Additional Support, If Needed
If you're unsure how to best meet your child's sensory needs, consider working with an occupational therapist (OT) or taking a sensory education course. A professional can help you develop a personalized "sensory diet"—a set of activities designed to support your child’s nervous system.
6. Surround Yourself With Understanding People
Finally, remember that you don’t have to face this journey alone. Focus on building a community of supportive friends, family, and professionals who understand sensory processing challenges.
Final Thoughts
Advocating for your child’s sensory needs involves preparation, communication, and boundary-setting. By creating a sensory "elevator pitch," educating others (such as teachers and caregivers), and equipping your child with self-advocacy skills, you can build a support system that helps them thrive.
Remember, you don’t have to face this journey alone—reach out to understanding people, seek professional support when needed, and continue spreading awareness.
BORING, BUT NECESSARY LEGAL DISCLAIMERS
While we make every effort to share correct information, we are still learning. We will double check all of our facts but realize that medicine is a constantly changing science and art. One doctor / therapist may have a different way of doing things from another. We are simply presenting our views and opinions on how to address common sensory challenges, health related difficulties and what we have found to be beneficial that will be as evidenced based as possible. By listening to this podcast, you agree not to use this podcast as medical advice to treat any medical condition in either yourself or your children. Consult your child’s pediatrician/ therapist for any medical issues that he or she may be having. This entire disclaimer also applies to any guests or contributors to the podcast. Under no circumstances shall Rachel Harrington, Harkla, Jessica Hill, or any guests or contributors to the podcast, as well as any employees, associates, or affiliates of Harkla, be responsible for damages arising from use of the podcast.
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